Started by SueC, January 26, 2020, 02:58:00
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Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 16, 2021, 15:54:23... this thread is one of the main reasons I decided to join this forum.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 17, 2021, 11:16:19I have written an introduction post but it's waiting for approval.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 17, 2021, 11:16:19whether any of this makes any sense or is even slightly interesting or remotely relevant for your thread.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 17, 2021, 11:16:19Thank you both for the welcome!
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 17, 2021, 11:16:19You've hit the nail on the head perfectly for why I usually avoid discussions about music, except with close friends. The discussion around music is far too tribal. "If you don't like what I like, and for the reasons I like it, then you're an idiot."
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 17, 2021, 11:16:19Music, like all art, is an extremely personal and subjective experience. Sure, there are some objective qualities like the technical complexity of music, or use of language, or styles of brush strokes - but they're rarely important in terms of how we experience and appreciate a piece of work. Our lived experiences have such a huge effect on what music evokes emotion in us, and how we respond to that. That's a large reason why I am enjoying reading your posts. Music doesn't exist in isolation from everything else in our lives, and I appreciate that holistic approach to your writing. It's genuine and it's relatable.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 17, 2021, 11:16:19My wife, Jess, and I are in a somewhat similar position to you and Brett. Jess had an extremely traumatic childhood, and after she suffered a breakdown 8 years ago, we quit our high-pressure jobs, sold our house in Sydney and moved to a small country town. We're not quite as self-sufficient as we'd like to be, but we do grow the vast majority of our own fruit and vegetables and exchange any surplus with other people in our town for more variety. The quieter, calmer lifestyle has had a noticeable improvement on our mental health, and our health in general. Spending each day doing meaningful tasks which have tangible results is so much more fulfilling than our old lives were.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 17, 2021, 11:16:19I spoke a little about Wish in my introduction post, but since it hasn't appeared yet: Wish was the album that really got me interested in The Cure, and songs from it are connected to a lot of the important moments in my life, happy or sad (and often both). For example, when Jess and I got married, my support dog at the time was an important part of the ceremony - I walked with her down the aisle to 'Trust', and she stood with us through the entire ceremony. We sadly had to have her put to sleep 2 years ago, and I find Wish to be the perfect conduit for remembering her, and exploring the duality of joy and sorrow. And of finding comfort and happiness through (and sometimes in) the pain.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 17, 2021, 11:16:19I find it an important part of my mental well-being to take the time to explore (but not dwell on) my "negative" emotions and memories, in order to process them. I used to try to ignore them and that... didn't work out too well.
Quote from: SueC on August 18, 2021, 02:51:41I'm curious if you've got a vision-assist dog or other type of service dog - I guess because I'm interested in how people deal with various challenges. Did you ever read about Asphyxia, who's an owner builder, artist and circus performer in Victoria, and who is completely deaf? I love her articles, and how she gets around the various challenges that not being able to hear presents. Personally, one main reason we tree-changed and built our own house is because I lost the nerve to one of my vocal cords in my late 30s. At first it was unclear if I'd ever speak again. I couldn't keep teaching and I needed a project. My voice eventually recovered reasonably OK but isn't suitable for long stretches of speaking because that starts to strain the remaining connected-up vocal cord which has to cross a gap to try to meet and align with the disconnected one hanging in space. And of course, I've lost a whole bunch of top notes because that's too hard for one working vocal cord to do. But it's a lot better than it could have been.
Quote from: SueC on August 18, 2021, 02:51:41I love the scenery all the way to the Hawkesbury (ever done the Barrenjoey Peninsula walk right at the edge of that?) but prefer the coast south of Sydney Metro (from Royal Botanical Park south) to the vastly built-up Central Coast. There's spectacular coast south of Sydney and those rolling hills parallel, and little places which just nestle - like Berri (at least when I saw it). There's many spots I could happily have lived in that particular region. I'm sure you're enjoying your scenery, and it sounds like you also have community down there!
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46We (as a society) had a real opportunity to correct course as a result of the pandemic, but at almost every stage of it, the rich, powerful and privileged have done everything possible to maintain the status quo.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46I'm not a fan of social media either. I don't use Twitter, I find it far too aggressive and confrontational for the most part. Despite some definite good that has been achieved on it, it has also provided a platform for bigots and anti-intellectuals to spread their hatred and willful ignorance* to a wider mainstream audience and embolden people to repeat them and act on them.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46* By this I mean the people pushing agendas such as anti-vaxxers, flat-Earthers, moon landing fakers... chemtrails, Illuminati, etc. It's not that they are unaware of the facts; they deliberately ignore them.I can't tell if social media is eroding peoples' ability to empathise with others, or if it has just removed the illusion that common decency was as widespread as we hoped.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46I'm so sorry to hear that. But I'm glad things have improved. From the sounds of things the overall lifestyle change has been a net positive, too?
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46I just Googled Asphyxia. Her story is very inspiring. It's amazing what obstacles some people can overcome.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46My issues are mental health related. I have bipolar disorder, social anxiety disorder and agoraphobia, which are helped to some extent by having an emotional support dog.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46For her last few years, she started to struggle with walking due to breed-related hip issues and athritis, so we bought her an above-ground swimming pool. The low-impact exercise helped her stay in shape and helped her regain and maintain strength in her legs. It might be worth trying for your dog, if she likes swimming? I hope you have many years left with her.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46For the last 11-12 years, I have only ever been without Zelda and/or Impa by my side twice - when I saw The Cure in 2011, and one afternoon a few years ago when I accompanied Jess to the hospital, both of which I had to be fairly heavily medicated to get through. We very rarely leave our property - usually only to go for scenic drives in our 4wd or for bushwalks, and the dogs are always with us.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46When we lived in Sydney, we lived in the Western Suburbs, and did most of our drives and walks out that way, particularly in the Blue Mountains and further west. My dad lived on the Central Coast for a few years, and we went on some really nice walks up there, but as you said, it's quite built-up up there. We did a few trips down near Wollongong/Nowra, which is a very beautiful area.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46We now live 5 hours from the coast, but still surrounded by beautiful natural areas, just very different to the coastal scenes of Sydney. We have plenty of National Parks and state forests around us, plus we're not far from the Snowy Mountains.
Quote from: thedrowningman9904 on August 18, 2021, 11:03:46We similarly don't eat much meat. More days than not we don't eat meat. We'd rather a nice salad or a plate of roasted/barbecued vegetables. We haven't had stewed kangaroo, but we do get kangaroo steaks from the local butcher sometimes. Shortly after moving here, we got two sheep, with the thought of maybe eating them eventually. But they became too much like pets and we couldn't do it. They're now living on a nearby farm, as the daughter's pets.
Quote from: Pongo on September 01, 2021, 12:52:18...my feedback...in a couple of months time.
Quote from: Pongo on September 01, 2021, 12:52:18Maybe I'll throw in my thesis on why Wild Mood Swings is a stellar album.
Quote from: Ulrich on September 02, 2021, 09:43:12I'm really looking forward to that (seriously, I've always liked this album).
Quote from: SueC on September 02, 2021, 10:49:35Good things take time, etc. Especially if you only do them when you really feel like it, instead of making a millstone for yourself...
Quote from: Pongo on September 02, 2021, 11:35:37Me too. Initially I thought it was "rather ok". But I found that it's an album I'm coming back to more often than many others. So that must mean I like it...